**A video recording of this post can be found HERE.
As a woman living in the 21st century I will live as though I have a thousand daughters, even though I have none, because every girl is my daughter and when she sees me, or engages with me, she's looking to me for how to live. So I will live, I will smile, I will laugh, I will speak, and I will pray as though her heart and soul depend on it.
As a woman living in the 21st century I will not judge myself based on numbers. My worth will not be determined by my weight, by my height, by my social security number, by my Blog followers or Google followers or by Facebook and Twitter. Only one number will ever matter to me, that is, the number One, who is God, who is my biggest fan, and all I will care about is whether or not I bring him glory.
As a woman living in the 21st century I will not depend on makeup or clothes to improve my self-esteem. If I am looking tired, I will take a nap, not put on foundation. If I am feeling sad, I won't buy a new outfit, but I will bow down and pray and ask the Holy Spirit to mend these broken ways in me and comfort me and be my closest confidant. I do not need to purchase or accessorize; I need to recognize my emotional and spiritual needs, and allow my creator to recreate me, daily.
As a woman living in the 21st century I will not allow Hollywood or Dreamworks or YouTube or PlayBoy or any form of social media to define what it means to be a woman. I will define what it means to be a woman for myself and for my one thousand daughters. And maybe that means wearing cowboy boots and jeans or maybe it means running barefoot through a meadow or maybe it means cross-stitching naked. Whatever. I will be, whoever I will be, and no amount of social pressure will change that.
As a woman living in the 21st century I will not be defined by my relationship with men, but rather, by my relationship with ONE man, Jesus Christ, and because of him, I will not be afraid of a relationship 'status' because there is no such thing. Rather, there is relationship, pure and simple. And I will embrace mine with my husband fully, because it does not define me... Jesus defines me. My husband is my companion, not my competitor. His love is a gift, not a threat, and his role is defined by God alone, not by theology or doctrine or Homer Simpson.
As a woman living in the 21st century I will embrace motherhood and children fully, allowing them to grow and to flourish and to excel in whatever ways they want to. I will believe in them as not just physical or mental beings, but as spiritual and emotional ones, and their success in my eyes will not be rated by extra-curricular activities, but by the intimacy of their prayers and the poignancy of our conversations over the dinner-table.
As a woman living in the 21st century, I will wake each morning believing I am loved, knowing I am valuable, and celebrating my worth, not because of anything I have done other than the fact that I've believed in the only one who will ever give anyone worth: Jesus Christ.
Glory, hallelujah.
Announcing: A Dare to Love Yourself
*For the next few Mondays, I'm going to be doing a synchroblog (a link-up), leading up to the launch of my new book, Mom in the Mirror. (releasing Mother's Day 2013).. we'll be kicking it off NEXT Monday, February 25th, and the goal will be to link up a post related to learning to LOVE yourself... are you in?
It's a dare, friends. It's A DARE TO LOVE YOURSELF. Starting now.
*linking with Laura, Ann, Jen, Heather and Michelle
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Your words are a sweet gift from God dear Emily! Love & prayers, in Jesus, Cynthia
ReplyDeleteOh, I'm so glad Cynthia. May you always know his love, friend. e.
DeleteEmily, there is so much in your words here. I think I need this too! Thank you for the dare! Bless you!
ReplyDeleteI'm so glad, Rebekah! Bless you too. e.
DeleteI wanted to draw attention to one part...and then another...and oh, then another. this entire post, all these words, were a righteous shout and a holy call to arms.
ReplyDeleteI cannot WAIT for next Monday, dear sweet em. I am excited beyond belief.
oh Rachel i LOVE your heart. LOVE it.
DeleteLove this, and, as always, I'm with you.
ReplyDeletethis just brings me to tears, brandee. you are so faithful. xo
DeleteLove this Emily!!!!!
ReplyDeleteSO glad sweet Gina :) You are beautiful and loved. e.
DeleteI so agree with Rachel! I wanted to write how I really loved one part and then it was another part and then it just kept going. Your words are touching as always Emily and speak more truth than I ever could. Thank you for being you and sharing your many gifts with this world.
ReplyDeleteoh Kristin, thank you for encouraging me tonight. you bring me such great joy. bless you. e.
DeleteFavorite post I've read all week. Love your heart and your vision here. Thank you.
ReplyDeleteOh wow Natalie, what a compliment. Thank you friend. May you always know you are beautiful and loved. e.
DeleteJust one big...uh-huh and wow. and yes, I'm in...God willing, I will be in!
ReplyDeleteyay! :)
Deletewooo! i'm in! love it LOVE IT! great post darling!
ReplyDeletewoohoo! love you shannon :)
DeleteEm. This piece. AMAZING.
ReplyDeleteoh girl, so glad you enjoyed it. LOVE you.
DeleteAmen.
ReplyDeletexoxo
DeletePlease include me. As so often happens here I absolutely resonate with all of it. Thank you for giving all of us a place to really belong, or rather calling our attention to the fact that we already belong.
ReplyDeleteEmmie, I would LOVE for you to be involved! I so appreciate you and your voice and heart. xo
DeleteThank you, thank you, thank you! I'll be linking up next Monday. I so need this, as do many other women I know.
ReplyDeleteI'm SO glad Melanie. I need it too. xo
DeleteLove, love, love this. I've been feeling pushed in this direction lately, into acceptance of myself and the love God gives. Thanks for this series. I look forward to reading more!
ReplyDeleteOh I'm so glad Becky... I've been pushed in this direction too, this self-acceptance. Bless you friend.
DeleteThese are wonderful assertions! and -- fascinating coincidence -- I just posted about something related to this today, e.g. learning to love my body not just as a contemporary woman but specifically as a woman of faith. It's here: http://velveteenrabbi.blogs.com/blog/2013/02/every-body-is-a-reflection-of-god.html
ReplyDeleteBlessings to you!
Oh can't wait to read this, friend! You'll have to link it up to next week's link-up, too! xo
DeleteI am IN. all in...in-finitly in.
ReplyDeleteyayyyyyyy!
DeleteHi Emily
ReplyDeleteWhat an incredible post! Oh, why do we need to make so many mistakes before we learn this wisdom, but I suppose we need to learn from them, don't we. Looking forward to your link-up!
Much love
Mia
I'm so glad, Mia. And I know. I wish I hadn't made so many mistakes either. :(
DeleteAmen, Emily! Grinning with you in the mirror, and loving the laundry pile in the background. :)
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lol... yup. That laundry pile never disappears. The clothes change, but there's always a pile.
DeleteThis, this is beautiful and keepable and I am so very happy to have read it tonight. I love your heart. Thank you for sharing it.
ReplyDeleteoh Andrea, I'm so glad. I appreciate your encouragement, friend. Bless you. e.
DeleteYou go girl! Inspiring post, Emily!
ReplyDeleteThanks so much Margaret! You are such an encouragement.
DeleteThis was truly beautiful and convicting. I kept thinking, "Wow, that one spoke to me." And then I'd read the next section and think the same thing... thank you for being a shining example to me today.
ReplyDeleteI'm so glad to hear that, friend. Bless you. e.
DeleteLove the way God is calling you to lead women, to be our true selves and embrace the way God made us. Love this idea and look forward to that book.
ReplyDeletethank you friend. pray for me? love you.
DeleteOh, I love this - and I love the mission in this. Learning how to love ourselves can only happen in relationship to How He loves us, How He created us - and it will be such an exciting journey you are offering to us! Blessings to you, Emily - wishing I had had this message when I was growing up:)
ReplyDeletethank you sweet friend. will you pray for me, as we embark on this? so appreciate you.
DeleteFriend, this - your heart and your words and all these truths - make me soar, for they sing of the one who sings in you. I'm going to print these out and keep them close on hand, for I will need to come back to them.
ReplyDeleteoh girl, i'm so glad it spoke to you. love to you, so much love. xo
DeleteAmen! This fills me and inspires me and empowers me anew in him! Thank you so much, Emily.
ReplyDeleteyay! praise him! thanks ash :)
DeleteThis is simply wonderful. I plan to share this with my daughters and nieces :) Have a blessed weekend!
ReplyDeletethank you kathleen! i'm so glad you enjoyed it!
Deleteoh my, dear friend.
ReplyDeletean email coming soon.
beautiful.
xo
Read this one before. Loved it then. Came back today, seeing the link at Sarah's. And I'm loving it all over again. Well done, sister.
ReplyDeletei'm so glad jennifer. it was definitely inspired. i looked into the mirror one day and felt the Lord say, "A dare to love yourself." :) love you.
DeleteI like that you left the laundry piled up in the background of the picture; refreshingly real!
ReplyDelete:) my children are always helping me be ever-more real. laundry included. bless you renee!
DeleteAmen!
ReplyDeletebless you, julie! thanks for stopping by! e.
Deletewhat a beautiful manifesto. i too have no children of my own, but i see others' children as mine, too. i must live out my relationship with Christ in relationship with them, not so much leading them, but walking alongside them as we figure out together what it means to be like Him. i'll be suggesting the reading of this post to all my friends via twitter. we need a network of sisters & mothers & daughters standing shield to shield before the throne in prayer for one another. thank you.
ReplyDeletethank you so much Danae! this walking alongside our peers, this is what it's all about. thank you for your support and encouragement. bless you!
DeleteAmen! eshet chayil! Woman of Valor.
ReplyDeletethank you.
really and truly,
thank you.
bless you Jennifer! thanks so much for this!
DeleteJust love you so much.
ReplyDeletei love you too sarah :)
DeleteThis is just precious! So thankful for you.
ReplyDeleteaw girl... thankful for you too hon.
DeleteI keep coming back to this post. Over and over it speaks to me. And it got me thinking, and inspired me to get speaking to myself ... so here's my Love Dare:
ReplyDeletehttp://rannygahoots.blogspot.com/2013/03/lenten-love-letters-letter-to-myself.html
Emily, I love this! Your heart is so beautiful and your perspective great! A friend recently remarked that she loved my curly hair...she's known me for two years and never knew it was curly. I told her that I am embracing it b/c I want to love myself in front of my daughter...and now, as you say, in front of 1000 daughters. Thanks for this! Thanks!
ReplyDeleteEmily, i just found this today after clicking over from Shannon's blog - WOW! loved every word - so much truth!
ReplyDeleteThank you for sharing your heart, thank you for daring to love yourself. I have been working on this, despite what tries to creep in and tell me otherwise, we are enough, by His grace!
xoTiffany
oh my, "maybe it means cross stitching naked." ...have you been watching me? i'm a few months behind, but this is lovely. looking forward to looking through your blog.
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